Published by: Iyoke Sunday Paschal 

Date: 25/09/2025

Depression is one of the most misunderstood struggles of our time. It does not always look like tears or loud cries for help. Sometimes, it is a silent battle fought behind smiling faces. The topic of depression is often avoided in many Nigerian homes, seen as a sign of weakness, spiritual attack, or even laziness. But the truth is simple: depression is real, and it can affect anyone.

Looking into a shattered mirror is a perfect picture of what depression feels like. The reflection you see is broken, scattered, and unclear. People living with depression often see themselves the same way — as if they are no longer whole. “Onye ara adịghị ama na ọ bụ onye ara” — a mad person does not know he is mad. In the same way, many do not even realize they are depressed. They just feel tired, hopeless, or empty, without knowing there is a name for what they are going through.

Depression affects how you think, how you feel, and how you relate to others. It may start with simple things — losing interest in activities you once loved, feeling unusually tired, or withdrawing from friends and family. Some people even experience physical symptoms like headaches, body pain, or sleepless nights. Like the Igbo proverb says, “Ihe na-ere ọkụ na-amalite na obere ọkụ,” — the fire that burns starts with a small flame. Depression grows if left untreated, and for some, it can lead to thoughts of ending their life.

The silent struggle of depression is that many people hide it. Society expects everyone to be strong. Men are told to “man up,” and women are told not to complain. This creates a dangerous culture of silence. People wear smiles on the outside while their hearts are heavy inside. “Igbu onye ara ka mma, kama ị kpasuo ya iwe” — it is better to kill a mad person than to mock him. When we mock or judge those with depression, we add to their pain.

But there is hope. Just as a shattered mirror can be replaced, a broken heart can heal. Depression is treatable. Talking to someone you trust is a good first step. Therapy, medication (when necessary), exercise, proper rest, and spiritual support can make a big difference. Most importantly, we must create a culture where it is okay to speak about mental health without shame.

“Mmadu bu chi ibe ya” - man is another man’s god. This means we all have a role to play in helping those going through depression. Check on your friends, listen without judgment, and remind them they are not alone. A kind word, a visit, or even a smile can make someone’s shattered reflection begin to look whole again.

Depression may feel like standing before a broken mirror, but with support, love, and proper care, healing is possible. Let us break the silence and build a world where no one has to fight depression alone.
Always remember, you're the strongest!

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