Being feminist is not about choosing to adapt, it’s about dismantling the regressive patriarchal system.* I often converse w myself (daydream) like a mad man, I create scenarios in my head – like this one recent encounter, I'm currently pursuing my master's in Scotland, and I decided to visit Nigeria ofc my people, but most importantly my girlfriend at the time *inserts one of my very few love interests*. I was sitting on a tranquil park bench overlooking the Lagos lagoon in UNILAG (no idea what tf I was doing there, academia stuff I suspect?). But while brooding at God's perfection, I was approached by this lady who apparently was one of those YouTubers with a hidden camera somewhere, which at the moment I was completely oblivious of. Well this particular lady (student of psychology as she  introduced herself) often approach random strangers specifically in calm/relaxing environments, to provoke thought and discussion through controversial questions, capturing genuine reactions on film. And honestly, come to think of it, sounds like a really good idea, especially in Nigeria – take a therapist's approach at asking questions, explore the minds of the citizens, with socio-cultural, or political views. And I actually believe, this will give an insight into the mind of an average Nigerian, and even as a collective (society).After quickly brushing through the formal introductions, she posed her first controversial question, as thus – "So if you get married, would you allow your wife kneel before she serves you".  My memory is bit foggy, but I think I burst out in laughter, and gave her my candid response;*Nahhhhhh, my "wife" can do whatever TF she wants honestly, I don't care about any traditions. She's free, but ofc she'd have to follow traditions on our wedding day, kneel when she's supposed to, I shall also be doing the same (prostrate). But this is all just to avoid battling eyebrows, and escape unnecessary controversies. After that, baby girl you're free.*Pretty sure I said more, but all thanks to my goldfish memory, this is all I can remember **sorry**. So she nods in approval, to my response, and then somehow it evolved into a deeper conversations on societal issues, particularly the intersection of tradition and modern values. Again I can't remember much said, but she raised a question about feminism being policed, rather than it being a choice. Yeah, and coincidentally, in reality, Twitter was burning with back-and-forth(s) centered around this same argument.And as with every other “ twitter draggings” I come across, I don't know the origin, and I couldn't get a thread to fill me in, just saw a few tweets I found really interesting. So using the "kneeling down" question as an instance, most users were arguing this should be a choice rather than a policy, which I agree to. While I do think the intent is a little aback, it's not wrong if a woman chooses to respect her "traditions" and kneels while serving her husband. Oh and the argument of, our forefathers shall not be disrespected – boo fucking hoo, people tarnish certain parts of tradition, it's been a thing of existence, and it won’t cease to exist. And it's quite ironic, to think Nigeria, world-renowned, global-leading religious country would cry about demolishing traditions. I believe, our same ancestors wasn’t serving “Allah” or “Almighty God”,  but apparently we’re so much blind to completely ignore (cherry-pick). Same traditions that legalized the killing of twins? Same tradition that legalizes (still currently practiced) underage marriage, in the North? Oh while I get that these aforementioned practices are “extreme”, I still classify them with the “kneeling” one, cos’ I believe them to be unnecessary. Another reason why I think this hidden camera interview would be groundbreaking, cos' we get to see the reasoning behind these “thoughtless” notions.