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When one is alone but does not feel lonely, it is ‘Aloneness’. 
When one is with company and feels inwardly empty, it is ‘Loneliness’.
 

Loneliness is unawareness.
The person is unaware that he is the child of the universe.
Hence, he accepts not of himself and rejects others.
He is out of love. And when one walks out of the 
circumference of love, one is stepping into the 
precinct of darkness.
All alone in the dark, one becomes it.

Aloneness is awareness.
Aware that the parts are of the whole and that 
all things are one.
Aloneness is full.
When one is alone one could hear the silent music of truth; 
which is the gentle humming of "Existence" whispering in your ears.
In it, one will dance.
One dances with the wind and sings with the flowers.
All around one are companions.

What more can one asks for?

Explanation:

Most people dislike being left alone. To be precise, people are terrified of loneliness! The prospects of old age is daunting, because it brings into the picture the huge, ugly baggage of fragility, sickness and helplessness - old age closes the door to one's vitality, and society ostracizes old people to the edge; that is why it is so frightening! The agony of being alone with nobody to appreciate and love you for who you are makes old age unthinkable. But who is the ‘thinker’ in the first place? The answer is: we - ourselves. If over the course of one's life, one does not develop wisdom, then old age becomes a desperate and lonely affair. Lonely simply because one is still clinging on to old habits and memories and has not evolved enough to fine fulfillment within oneself, as such external stimuli are needed, human companions are needed.  

You must understand that old age is a process and not an event, because you don't just age suddenly at the age of 55 and become elderly. Aging is a slow process; even as I am writing this I am aging towards my final destination - death. And because it is a slow and subtle process many people do not realize that their age has outgrown their mentality. You end up having a childish personality residing in the physique of an elderly person, and that is not what I would call aging gracefully. It is difficult for the eyes and sad for the heart to witness this phenomenon, but 99% of people do not age with grace.

Compared to his peers, a person who cultivates a sense of introspection will have developed a vastly different mentality by the time he is in his late twenties. At first, he enriches himself through his quest for knowledge, and later on, as his knowledge expands it stimulates him into a search for life's bigger answers - that is how he gets into the path of earnestness, of an introspective understanding of himself in relation to the world and he develops wisdom from there on. In other words, his knowledge is no longer just academic and all theory; his knowledge is that of experience, as only experiential knowledge can give one wisdom.  There is no other way!  That is why scholarly knowledge is not wisdom...it is just plain vomit and regurgitation of old and fragmented knowledge learnt from teachers and books. Scholars also cherry pick knowledge and answers that suit their dreams and illusions.

When you are introspective, it is a matter of time before you develop wisdom. And when you have wisdom in you, you become calm, contended and "self-fulfilled". That is right - self-fulfilled. This doesn't happen when the person focuses only on the outside - external and material development. When a person does that, he might become wealthy and materially successful, but his inner being remains poor. And when old age arrives it becomes his curse; because he realizes that his wealth, prestige and power he has built as buffers are crumbling in the face of death. He realizes with all his glory he is still going to die ultimately alone! This loneliness frightens him to his core; struggling in vain he constructs more buffers and surrounds himself with more companions and material comfort in attempts to escape reality.

Loneliness is a byproduct of unawareness; one is unaware that so much inner treasures and joy are hidden within our inner world, that compared with the outer material wealth the inner world is infinitely superior. As long as one neglects one’s introspective development, one will always be plagued by the feeling that something is missing within oneself. And despite being materially successful and surrounded by fame, fans, friends and people in general, one will always feel lonely.

On the contrary, when a person is introspectively developed, he is at equilibrium with himself and the world, he will come to the understanding that all these while ‘bliss’ is the default state of his being, which is concealed by the illusions rendered by one's ego and many desires. Suddenly, one's loneliness takes on a transformation and becomes ‘Aloneness’.

In aloneness, one transcends duality and enters into communion with existence itself...and suddenly you see that everything is in harmony with your life...absolutely no conflicts, no antagonism between your inner-self and the world outside. A sense of completeness overcomes you, and you feel totally secure and loved as if you are placed in the warm womb of existence - nothing is worrying, nothing troubling - as all around you are companions! One dances with the wind and sings with the flowers. All around one are companions.
What more can one asks for?

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