Life is like a galaxy with many stars in it.

You discover some stars when they’re born, others when they’re middle-aged and some before they die. I think of people like stars. You meet some before they become stars, some when they’re shining bright, and others towards the end of their life.

People say we should choose those who choose us, and walk away from those who walk away from us. Even though this may be true and applicable in some cases, it is unfair and unwise to pass the same judgment without first considering whether it is the best choice for both parties. In our day and age, when self is overwhelmingly projected with very few people paying heed to anything or anyone else, we should consider putting others first.

Some people are sometimes distant because they find it difficult to communicate, probably due to some trauma from past events that shaped them into what you now see and term “refusing to communicate”. There is nothing worse than having your loved ones’ unhealed wounds from their past experiences bleed on you, but in that situation, being more kind and gracious would go a long way. That person would be needing all the help he can get. So some people refuse to communicate, yes, but others, like in this circumstance, genuinely find it hard to do so.

In any case, if you walk away from everyone, especially at their lowest points, who will you be left with, and who will be left with you? Because mind you, to someone else, you’re all these things you complain about and are human enough to have down times as well. Sometimes, you will carry the brunt of the burden of a relationship, not because you want to, but because you chose to regardless of the pain and hardship it brought. Because you saw the good in that person and knew the value of your relationship.

So I asked myself, if Jesus only chose those who chose him, would I have been part of the chosen? What would have happened to my and the rest of the world’s salvation? One may argue and say “He is God, so He knew He had to do it”. Yes, He was God and knew He needed to do it, but He had the choice whether or not to follow through with the plan to redeem us all; those who believed him and those who didn’t, with the hope that they would come to believe someday. It is unlikely that any sane parent would throw their child away or disown him if he was behaving badly. They’d work things out and polish him up until he knows how to maintain the morals and values he’s been taught well enough on his own. That’s how relationships are sometimes. It’s not always smooth and rosey. Some are rosier than others and some are more difficult than others, but every relationship has its peculiarities. Yeah, we lose some of them, but there others you must fight for, especially when you know, “this one’s a keeper”.

And not only the ones who seem to have made it are worth keeping, or those who seem to be living a good life. It’s those who are just starting out too, those who are at the brink of starlight, and those who are trying to find their feet in this terrific, exciting rollercoaster called life, those struggling and trying their best to stay afloat. It’s not just the ones you see potential in, it’s also the people you don’t see much substance in. In fact, those are the ones to be excited about. Na their type dey shock people pass, lol.

Every person has wonder within them and was made to shine. Look out for the wonder in the stars around you.