How do I tell the world that my wife beats me? You already know how people will react. I know the questions that will follow: "How can a woman beat a man? Are you not strong enough? What were you doing?" Some will laugh. Some will doubt it. Some will say it’s impossible. And that is exactly why I have kept quiet for so long. But silence is killing me faster than the abuse. Let me tell you a bit of my story.

I married my wife in 2010. At that time, it felt like the perfect love story. We were happy, hopeful, and completely wrapped up in each other. Looking back now, I think “loved” is the right word, because whatever love we had has faded into fear and regret. One year into our marriage, I began to notice the red flags — the very ones I ignored during courtship. She would get angry over the tiniest things and explode without warning. During our dating days, she would apologize afterward and I would forgive her. I thought it was nothing. I thought love covered everything. Maybe love blinded me more than I knew. Maybe I am the one who opened the door for all of this.

At first, it was shouting. Then it became insults. Then it became slaps. Then punches. Now, when my wife gets angry, she beats me — not playfully, not accidentally, but with real anger and full force. And when she calms down, she apologizes. Every. Single. Time. I don’t even know what the apologies mean anymore.

The worst part? I cannot talk to anyone. Because the moment a man says, “My wife beats me,” society laughs. They mock him. They call him weak. They tell him to “man up,” as if pain does not hurt men. As if bruises on a man are not bruises. As if fear in a man’s chest is not fear. People forget that men are victims too. People forget that abuse has no gender. I need help. I need it fast. How do I get out of this mess without being humiliated? How do I seek help without being turned into a joke? How do I tell my story without people rolling their eyes?

If you are reading this, maybe you are a man going through the same thing. Maybe you know someone silently suffering. Maybe you have laughed at a story like this before not knowing someone around you was living it. This is not about shame. This is about survival.

Men deserve help too.

Men deserve safety too.

Men deserve to speak without being mocked.

And until society accepts this truth, more men will die in silence.