In my opinion, love is love. the basis of any type of love is love. before sexual intimacies, before loyalties, before the “i dos.”

When i say “i love you”, that’s exactly what it means. platonic or romantic, doesn’t matter.

Love exist beyond romantic and loving others helps one Love themselves. 

I believe, “you can’t love someone if you can’t love yourself,” means that you cannot responsibly commit to a long time romantic partnership if u haven’t 1st figured out your relationship with  yourself bc it’s likely you’re employing someone else to love you rather than do it yourself. the original intention of that phrase was "Being desperate for someone to fill all the holes trauma left you with can lead to abusive relationships one way or the other." Which is often true.

Loving yourself is knowing when a relationship is a healthy one, and being able to leave if not . It is a statement for you to not accept mistreatment and abuse like you deserve it, to not self sabotage yourself, to not put someone's else needs above your own to the point of self harm... 

“ you Can't love others if you don't love yourself ”

I'm not too fond of people calling this phrase BS because it definitely has its purpose, although there is the question of ,  if it's intended to promote self-love, why phrase it in a way that implies an inability to love? Good sentiment, terrible choice of how to succinctly communicate it,

I think if we don’t have a certain level of self love, we can fall into relationships that are bad for us. We can definitely love others, just perhaps not the right others?

“when you try to love others you learn how to love yourself ”

love is a complex thing. no one would ever say “you can’t hate someone if you’ve never hated yourself”, so why is love different. there’s hardly a set defined rule.While learning to love yourself can certainly have a positive effect on your relationships (more on this below), it is not a prerequisite for being loved or loving others. 

Loving yourself is not a determinant to if you will ever be loved or love but it is a determinant to how love will be experienced .