this is my fourth month of pregnancy and I can no longer shut up so o told my sister and mom , it’s been good fortunately no much drama as expected instead my husband creates the drama himself except one night we were having a conversation and I requested for a favor where I come from the man names the baby so I requested that if I give birth to a girl👩‍ he would allow me choose her name  it if I give birth to a boy👨‍🦲he could chose any name he liked , and secondly we won’t find out the gender until he or she comes to our world , so my husband said  when the time comes he would see , can you imagine 🙄that wasn’t the answer I wanted to hear so I asked him to promise me he would allow me choose our baby’s name if she happens to be a girl and he said he can’t make any promise so I was triggered 😑, it was me who would bore the child, who will carry her in my womb for nine months why can’t I have the previledge of naming my own baby so I told him if he thinks it was easy for me then. He can go bore his child by himself and taking the baby out of my belly , he was shocked at him what do you mean , what do you think 🤔  well I have always have a dream name for my child , I have a particular name I wished I was named and I only wanted my baby to bear the name and now you want to deprive me of that honor , ok fine name her whatever you wish ,  I was so angry 😡at that statement I don’t even know why you see that’s my problem why would you say that , making me look like a bad person like am not  good wife ,  khalif was getting angry 😡with the way I was taking thing s too far , it’s not like he said no to me at least not directly as I thought. So I started to ignore😤 him I would lie down on the carpet in the room ,ofcourse I dare not to leave my matrimonial room , he hates it when I laid down on the floor and the next morning I get sick so he would rather lay on the floor by my side so I would get up and lay on the bed while he would sleep on the floor, in the morning I would refuse to eat breakfast making so worried he would make my favorite dish which is so tempting so I would rather steal it when he steps out but I won’t eat it when he gives me. So when he got tired of my new attitude he started calling me mummy Fanan😘 yes that’s the name I wanted to name my baby so badly , and that was the only way out for him , so I started cooling off infact he changed his name on my phone 📱 to Daddy fanan just so that he could compensate me. Well I did really care about calling me mummy fanan besides I am not yet ready to be called mummy at least until Fanan arrives.  It was a crazy fight I guess it was a flaw I didn’t know I had .
As my tummy grows bigger I didn’t like being touched so I will throw up🤮 anytime he kissed🥵 me and I don’t want to be hugged cause I feel choked  I guess  I was really driving my husband crazy 😵‍😵‍💫with my annoying attitudes , with all that I still love my husband so much and so when ever I see him around any lady whatsoever the relationship I get really protective maybe it’s my guilt because I am not being the best wife lately . But khalif has been the most supportive husband , he’s always their through the morning sickness,🤧 night cravings🤤, allergies,mood swings🫤 , body aches🥴 and all never for ones did he ever complain. I never for ones paused to think of what he has been through until my eight month one evening I wa supposed to be asleep when his best friend Hentle came over and they were talking, he told his friend sometimes I wish I can just run away  , I get tired too , I understand my wife , this is her first time but this is also my first time too , I Have to be emotional, physically,financially and mentally available to her and I am but. Who is going to comfort me and tell me all will be alright, it almost like my head is going to explode not to talk of when my wife starts with are pregnancy hormones it kills me I get worried sick over her and so stressed, don’t get me wrong I love her, I love being there for her but the point is is hard to deal with everything coupled with work stress,  his friend reassured him telling him it’s normal to feel that way especially being his first experience but he will get accustomed to it with time after Al marriage is for the strong 💪 men not weaklings. Since ever I developed a sort of empathy for my husband and decided to comfort him too and I tried so hard to manage my hormonal anger 😡 and tried to not get him worried 😟 a lot , we have the best moments of our life during the pregnancy period, sometimes I suppress my pains just so not to get him worked up not that he would not care but because I understand it was a lot to handle and I wanted to be the best wife so life goes on . 

Written by khairat Salihu